Some of you folks might be wondering about my title choice. Some of you could care less.  Well, trust me, read this whichever end of the spectrum you are because that is exactly what I'll be discussing.

I am learning about how to realize REALITY and not live in the extremes.  I'll show you:

Neg (-) --------|----------------------------Reality-----------------------------------|------Pos (+)
               depression                                                                         mania

"Reality" is where you want your mind to be in order to be at peace with oneself.  To understand what one truly has control over.

So, our mood, behavior and thoughts are all linked together.  So the more control I get over at least one of the three, the better chance I have of keeping ALL of me in control.  It's a bit like baseball. One for three is pretty darn good.  Therefore a better chance at living in "Reality".

So back to the chart.  It appears so simple, yet with someone like myself it is really difficult to follow everyday. (More to come about me personally in the future should I get brave enough.) So if I can get some control on either my behavior, my mood or my thoughts, then I can hopefully live more peacefully with myself and therefore more peacefully with others.  It's NOT about "getting a grip", it's about BALANCE.  And Balance = Reality
So that's what I'm doing.  Trying to stay balanced and focused on reality.  As well as living peacefully within it. 

My belief is to put out good, calm, positive energy out into the World as often as possible by being understanding and not judging others as well as not judging myself.  This is what I am learning.    But not be fake.  Genuinely feel it.  And I thought I would share that with you.  What good does it do to anyone to be mean, or a bitch, upset, yelling (except into a pillow. which I have done. it really does help.) or being violent?  Absolutely no good I say.  So, I try to remember that.  As well as focus on the now with what is real.  Not the past nor worry about the future. Simply breathe in one day at a time. 

On a lighter but still serious note:
For me, I've lived a good portion of my life on the depression end of the spectrum.  However that's another topic for another day.  The point is, in order to be BALANCED I don't need to be perfectly positive all the time.  And that's a FREAKING relief folks. A big relief.  Because I'd make myself more crazy trying to be so darned kind and perfect all the time.  It's ok to be NORMAL, which is NOT PERFECT!  or Normal = Not Perfect  

(ps- I've re-written this like 5 times already... there's not perfect for ya! ha ha!)